You Already Know It – Really!

You know the answers, really you doEverything you’ll ever need to know is within you; the secrets of the universe are imprinted on the cells of your body.
Dan Millman

You’ve heard people say that you already know everything you need to know I’m sure. Or that everything you need to know is inside of you.

And with all the opportunities to learn new stuff all around us do we really need to go on more courses when we feel stuck? It can be so overwhelming, and sometimes so easy to think that another course is the answer, you get all these promises about what you will learn or what shifts you will make.

But will it really make a difference?

In all truth, it depends.

It depends how much you have done already and what kind of action you take as a result

Have you ever done a training and sat there thinking, ” I know this stuff” ? I know I have, and sometimes it isn’t that we need to learn it again, it’s that we need to start using it and acting on it.

So sometimes a course acts as a prompt or a reminder and that is what kicks us into action, other times it is literally money down the drain.

Its more than possible that the first time you weren’t ready to hear it, or to act on it so you need to hear it again when the time is right

But then that begs the question – do you?

Often it is the same stuff, packaged up differently or with a different focus. So doing more and more stuff is really just revision of what you have already learned.

I made a decision a while back that I wasn’t going to pay for any more big trainings.

Having learnt to take notice of my intuition I know that it is a great guide, OK sometimes I don’t connect and listen but that doesn’t stop it being there when I do

I also know that I have learnt a lot of stuff, and on top of that I share a lot of it with others so I do know it.

So I believe I don’t need any core formal trainings, what I need is to call on my reserves of existing knowledge and pull out whatever is appropriate in the moment, and usually intuition can help me with that if it’s not immediately obvious.

Even if you weren’t ready when you first heard it, tap in, use your intuition, you do know what you need to know, just trust yourself.

And yes I get that’s there are circumstances when you need to learn something technical, some “how to”, and that’s great, its about recognising what is necessary and what is more of the same, and also learning to trust what you already know and to tap into it and use it.

Listen to your intuition. It will tell you everything you need to know.
Anthony J. D’Angelo

It really, really will.

If you have something you need to make a decision on or are struggling to find a way forward, perhaps intuition will help. To book a session with Julia to tune in together , or talk it over some more fill out the Contact form.

First published on the Authentic Edge Blog www.authenticedge.co.uk/blog

Listen to the Inner Voice

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Do you listen to your intuition? It can be a huge help both in business and other aspects of life. Fabulous when making decisions.

Church Is The Best Place To Pray

Do you need to be somewhere special to pray? - Julia Mcdaid“If you want to pray, the best place to do it is in church”
This is what someone close to me said recently.

And of course, me being me, I disagreed. – Nothing to do with religion for the record.

I don’t agree with the statement though, why do you have to be in church to pray? what difference does it make?

I mean what is praying anyway? In the main as I understand it praying is asking for something you want, asking for help for you or someone else, or asking for guidance. Is it not? And sometimes a way to be thankful or express fears and emotions. In most religions it is traditionally about connecting to/speaking to their “God”/”Spirit” etc.

So why do you need to be somewhere special to do that? Surely wherever you are it is about the connection , the intent and the actual asking.

I really do think too much emphasis is put on institutionalising things like this. Going to church on a Sunday does not make you a good person, not on its own. Being a “good” person is about how you live your life and how you are with other people, living things and the environment. It’s not about showing up in a certain place for an hour a week.

I have known, as I’m sure you have, churchgoers who do nothing for anyone else , do not live in what might be deemed a “Christian” way, yet because they go to church on Sunday they think they are better than anyone else. Whilst I have also known many people, who never set foot in a church, or mosque, or temple or any official building, yet who are the most generous, compassionate, helpful people around.

I firmly believe that the way you are, and the way you live your life, says a whole lot more about you that where you go to practice your beliefs officially be that religious, political, spiritual or whatever.

And that said, back to praying. Different people will use different words, some say pray, others might say ask for divine guidance, others might say asking forgiveness or sending healing.

It is a word used originally within religion but now more widely. And the bottom line is if you are asking for help or guidance what you really want is something outside of you to help you, or show you the way, or maybe help someone else.

And why ask someone/something external? Why not take responsibility and ask yourself?

So isn’t that really just checking in with your intuition? If you want to know what to do, ask yourself, check in with your heart – because you know best, and deep down you will have an answer. Whether you believe that is coming from your heart or soul, or from someone/thing “out there” it doesn’t really matter.

And it certainly doesn’t matter where you are, you can be on the train, in the car, by the sea or in the countryside. You can still ask questions and still get answers.

And if you want to help someone else you can send healing or ask for guidance on what to do.

Yes you can! Really.

So there you have it. I believe you can pray anywhere and I think praying and checking your intuition are so closely linked it’s all about perception. You may use different words to me, but underneath it all we are referring to the same thing. We can all go our own way, pray in church, or the temple or ask for intuitive guidance by the sea, or driving in the car. We are all asking for help or guidance, and will all get an answer.
If we listen.

Disclaimer: The view expressed in this article are my own. It is not intended to have any religious opinion, comments made are merely for illustration.

Feel The Fear

Go past those fearsOften when we are on our journey towards our dream we find that we seem to be hitting our head on a brick wall, or that “something” is stopping us. Whether we are conscious of it or not, often that something is fear of some sort.

Many of our fears are based on how we look at the world, and may result from conditioning or experiences in our earlier life. Whilst there are a few fears that benefit us, those that will actually save our lives, most are unfounded and have no logical explanation.

Did you know that FEAR is an acronym for False Evidence Appearing Real? and very often this is what fear is. Fear comes from our thoughts, because we are worried about what might happen. So if you can change the worrying thoughts, the fear will go and so it can no longer get in your way. Usually our fear is about what might happen, we have no idea yet, what will happen as the circumstances are in the future, so in reality there is no substance behind these thoughts, they are not based on any actual evidence.

If we can change the way we choose to look at these things, and so change our thoughts and perceptions about the impending event that is causing the fear, we can eliminate it. Once you have done this a few times and found that it works, things will never be the same again. You will be much more confident and able to deal with those scary thoughts as they arise.

There are many resources available to help you address any fears that might be getting in your way, or to identify what those fears are. Here are a few suggestions:

  • Intuition If you tap into your intuition you can focus on what you really want. You can also see what is happening in your reality now and what is your best next action.
  • NLP (which stands for Neuro Linguistic Programming). If you see an NLP practitioner they can use a variety of exercises to identify and deal with any fears that you may have
  • EFT (which stands for Emotional Freedom Techniques) also known as “Tapping”
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    All of these can be very quick and very effective.

    Conquer Your Fear – a series of audios by Lisa Jimenez. These are every good, and can also help you identify what your fear is by giving examples of how people with certain fears might behave – fear of success or fear of failure , for example. Lisa Jimenez RX Success

    Feel The Fear and Do It Anyway – a book by Susan Jeffers

    Feel free to contact me if you’d like to be put in touch with a practitioner for NLP or EFT. And if you are interested in an intuitive session to look at what is happening I would be happy to chat to you about this.

    (First published by Julia Mcdaid on the Finding Wealth and Freedom Blog)

    Make Your Own Decisions

    Follow your own heart, make your own decisionsHow often do you find yourself in a situation where you have decided to do something, and then later in the day or maybe the next day, you find yourself worrying about it and wondering if you made the right decision? I know it happens to me.

    And then what happens? You start questioning whether it was right, and the more you think and worry the worse the situation seems. The doubts kick in and that ego “stuff” starts to surface, whether you are conscious of it or not.
    So why does this happen?

    Well it may be triggered by something external to you. Sometimes its a conversation with a friend or partner, or something random like a post you read on social media. And once the seed is sown you go off down a spiral of questions and doubts and fears. You start to worry about the implications of your decision and what might happen if it doesn’t work out. You may worry about money or not having time or losing something you value.

    You know what? It’s just “stuff”. All this is your ego kicking in because it’s scared. Your ego likes consistency and staying In your comfort zone, not change and new things. And certainly not growth, not shifts that might its role smaller. And if you let it win you end up compromising, or even changing your mind altogether.

    Yet if you step back for a minute to look at the decision you made, does it look different?
    When you decided were you sure? Did you trust your judgement?

    I bet you did. As often as not when you make a decision you know it feels right.

    So why when it feels right at the time and you know inside that its true for you to follow that path, do you allow the ego to have a say?

    I know it’s the way life is and we were brought up like that. Yet I would suggest shifting to a place where you do believe in yourself and you trust your own judgment. And choose this over anything your ego wants to throw at you.

    Often when we are investing in ourselves we can have these doubts, whether the investment is time or money. I know, I have invested several $’000 before in a coaching program. And at the time I didn’t have the full amount spare nor any plan for how to meet the instalments. What I did know was that it was true for me to take that action at that time. I already knew I wanted a business coach, as the coach I had been working with didn’t have business focus.

    So I checked in with my intuition to see if it was true, and got that it was. And of course by making the leap I ended up learning new ways to increase the business I was doing. And when I look back the coach I worked with had appeared on my radar at just the time I decided I needed a new focus. And for me that realisation of changing focus had also come about intuitively so I knew it was true.

    So I would urge you when you have decisions to make, large or small to learn to listen to the inner signs. If an opportunity pops up at just the right time, or something sounds perfect, then you know what, maybe it is. And yes by all means talk to others and bounce ideas around, take advice and guidance. But at the end of the day always remember its your life, nobody else is on your journey, only you know what is true for you.

    So please, listen to your heart/gut and ultimately make all of your own decisions based on what is true for you, regardless of knowing all the hows and whys .

    Are YOU A Fascinating Female Entrepreneur?

    Talk about your business, calling all female entrepreneursOne of the things that became clear to me when I was reviewing last year and setting my intentions for 2014 was that I wanted to talk to more female entrepreneurs.

    As well as regular coaching, I have done quite a few Business Strategy Sessions with women entrepreneurs and I always enjoy hearing about their business and their journey.

    Sometimes it leads to us deciding to work together, sometimes its just a good conversation. It doesn’t really matter, either way I enjoy the chat and I can still support them and give some suggestions for next steps.

    So I have decided to create a slot where I can chat to other female entrepreneurs and find out about their business. And hopefully I can also give a few pointers to take them forward as well.

    I am also looking at doing some interviews with female entrepreneurs, particularly those who are following their heart in their business and using things like intuition as business tools.

    So watch this space for more information as these ideas develop, and if you feel interested in either a chat to me and some guidance for your business, or taking part in an interview then please let me know directly.

    I am looking forward to this, I think it will get quite exciting!

    If you would like to schedule a Strategy Session just send an email to ss @ ae8.biz to arrange a complimentary chat.

    Help! I Don’t Even Know What My Purpose Is….

    I don't know what my purpose is!This is a place I understand all too well, as I was there! That was me. So what do I recommend for you if you are a woman who doesn’t yet know what her purpose and passion is?

    To be honest I will rephrase that and say if you don’t yet know consciously. Because I believe we all know deep down, it’s just that sometimes it’s so deep it can take us a while to find it or recognise it!

    And that is my first point, know that it doesn’t automatically happen overnight. Some people have a flash of inspiration and just know, for others, for many of us, it can take a lot longer and needs some focussed attention.

    So I would suggest taking some time to get connected to your heart, learn how to listen and interpret what is true for you. It will be easier for some than others, though that is no reason to despair. There are lots of things you can do and exercises you can learn to support you in this.

    So spend time connecting to your heart, find out what works for you, listen to what comes through, and you will at some point find out what it is you really want to do. Initially you may just have the essence of it not the detail, it will come.

    To help you in the process you may find it helpful to invest in a coach, its often easier and clearer to have two of you focused on the outcome, I found this true for me. Sometimes we don’t trust or believe our own intuition and when it is reinforced by someone else we are more willing to accept the truth of it. You also usually get a deeper and wider understanding. Or if you have an intuitive friend you can work with them.

    I find that journaling can be good too, it allows you to expand on what comes to you and to stay connected to your imagination and your intuition for longer, so you can get deeper insights.

    And all the time do your best to trust the process, believe in your own guidance and receive the messages and signs that come to you, stay open to possibility. When something is really true you will just know, however that shows up for you, you will feel it. So whatever your head might say, whatever thoughts you have about what you feel, know that it’s your heart that is right.

    Top Tips For Running A Successful, Purpose Driven Business

    Top Tips from Julia McdaidToday is the day you can hear my interview on the Soulfully Successful Women Telesummit.

    One of the things Kelly and I talked about in preparation for the Telesummit were my top tips to build a successful business from your passion and purpose. After thinking about this I came up with these, and I thought you might find them useful.

    Firstly is follow your heart. If you are not familiar with the phrase, learn to understand what this means. To me it’s about doing it YOUR way, BEing you, being authentic and in integrity. Following your heart is about doing what is true for you, what you wnt deep down inside when yu stop listening to all those doubts and questions in your head! Its not what is expected or what you know. In fact I can’t emphasise enough, don’t just do what you know – unless it really is your passion and purpose.

    The next thing I would say, which really follows on from the first is to connect with your intuition, and use it. It is your intuition which will guide you and tell you what is true for you, this is what allows you to follow your heart.

    Another thing that many of us as women need to learn, because we are not very good at it, is to learn to receive. We women are naturally givers and often find this hard to do. Again this may need more explanation and understanding, I know it would have meant little to me when I started out. Here I’m referring to allowing your feminine side out, to allowing things to come to you, to be graceful and gracious and open in the way you interact. When you start thinking about attracting the right clients and people to you it pays to know how to receive (not dismiss things without thinking!).

    I think it is great to remember to keep things balanced too, although this is enough to be a blog in itself and I have written about it before. Part of this is knowing you are number one, put you first. Then also think about masculine & feminine energies in the business, and in you; about having time for the non work aspects of your life, the people and things that are important to you.

    And a couple of more practical tips for you:

    Get the right support network around you. This will allow you to play to your strengths. so look at advisors, mentors, peers, the people you interact with and look to for help. Plus your business structure, you can set this up so that it works for you and your lifestyle, delegating where appropriate and so on – learn to delegate well. This one is still on my “must do better” list I will be honest, I find it hard sometimes.

    And when it comes to using people outside of the business to help you, especially if you are paying them, don’t use advisors who only have corporate experience, because they won’t get you and they won’t understand the peculiarities of small business, whatever they might say. This is one I learned the hard way.

    And finally, this kind of ties into where I started, do let go of the “shoulds” and “ought to’s“. If you are running a purpose driven business it’s about your passion, your purpose, you and your clients, it’s not about what somebody else who doesn’t know those things says you should do. Yes there are some things you have to comply with legally, every business does, outside that its your business, your way, always.

    I hope you find some of these tips useful and if you have any good ones, please do share them 🙂

    Do you care what other people think?

    This came to me because I was remembering some of the decisions I’ve made over the years and reflecting on the more important decisions, particularly when it comes to the crunch, do we make our own decision or do we make decisions based on whether we will please the people around us?

    Stand out and be you don't get lost on the crowdAgain I know there is no right answer the answer to this question is an individual one and it will vary from person to person, and that’s great. I’d like to share my views on this. To me the big decisions I have made in my life are things like selling my business, leaving my job in the first place to go self-employed, and choosing to leave a relationship. Those kind of things.

    And when I look back at what I did at the time ultimately the decision was mine and mine alone. And I think with any decision in our lives deep down inside any decision is our own, and there are people who will think you’re bonkers and who will say you shouldn’t make the decision you make, the question really is, do we allow these people to influence us or do we stay true to ourselves?

    Leaving corporate life

    For example way back in 1996 I left the corporate world and I chose to set up in business on my own, this was largely driven by the fact that I hated my job and I didn’t really see what else I wanted to do, and also a craving the independence I suppose.

    I was a qualified accountant and at the age I was then I firmly believed that I would easily get another job if the self employment didn’t work out. So I had my fallback position, the worst case scenario was I set up on my own, it didn’t work so I could get another job.

    They didn’t like it…

    Simple for me …. for everybody else, people thought I was mad, people thought I was crazy, people thought I was brave – which made me smile, I thought it was a fairly normal sort of thing to do, perhaps because I mixed with people who were self-employed as well as people were employed, and so I didn’t really think of it as anything to worry about.

    I didn’t see it as anything too scary, yes it was scary to have no clue where to start but it didn’t seem to me to be an illogical decision, and yet I was surrounded by people telling me how brave I was. Which I think is because their mindset with was around staying in a job until you draw your pension because “that’s what you do”, that’s what culture says, that’s how it works, that’s what’s expected of you etc

    And to be honest had I listened to all those people I would no doubt have spent many years in other accounting jobs in corporate positions doing something I didn’t enjoy.

    How it would be different..

    How would that influence the rest of my life? my lifestyle? Perhaps I’ve lost out on some income but what about the freedom I have? would I have the same friends?

    I don’t know but I suspect I would be very unhappy, and the bottom line is for me I didn’t really care what other people thought, I knew it was right for me, it had been building up for a long time and that was all that mattered.

    And I think we need to be true to ourselves, I know I’ve said this before in other blogs but I do think it’s true and when it comes to the big decisions, and even the small decisions to be honest, but the biggies like selling a business, or keeping a job, or leaving a relationship, only YOU know and even if you don’t want to admit it and you want reassurance from other people that you’re doing the right thing, underneath you know.

    I think we are only ever seeking reassurance, we’re never seeking somebody else to make the decision for us. Sometimes it feels like it will be easier if we could act on advice, and we are helped by what others say, but we always know what’s true, we may or may not acknowledge it, or want to acknowledge it!

    You know inside

    I believe that deep down inside you always know the right decision to you and you always know the right way to go, and that brings back the question “do you care what other people think?”

    If you know its true does it matter what anyone else thinks or says? I would urge you to say no it doesn’t, to let go of the attachment to other peoples opinions and to listen to yourself, to what’s true to you, particularly with the big decisions.

    And if you need support, that’s OK just seek out someone to help you who will listen to what’s true for you, rather than anyone who will give you advice based on what is true to them.

    And if you are struggling with a decision or looking for some reassurance, why not take advantage of a free Authentic Business Strategy Session? 20-30 min focused time to get more clarity

    Why do I work with women and how is that different?

    I was prompted to write this blog by a conversation I had at a networking event the other night. because I focus on working with women people often ask me why, and the truth of the matter is it’s not something I’ve ever done before in my life and I followed my heart.

    What do I want to do?

    So in many ways there isn’t any logical reason why I do what I do and the work I do with my clients is something I can obviously do with men and with women, but what I have done is spend a lot of time checking in with what my intuition says and what my heart would love to do.

    I can support people growing a business (male or female) but when I check in and when I looked at what I would really truly love, what makes my eyes fill with tears is having an impact on women.

    I remember a talk I went to a couple of months ago by Paul Dunn, and he was suggesting the audience do an exercise where you ask somebody why they do what they do, and then you keep on asking why. As you do this you go deeper and deeper and eventually you get to a point where you more or less can’t speak, you cannot say what’s in your mind because it’s so true for you that you’re filling up with tears.

    And for me what gets me in that space of deep love, is when I say I want to see the impact I can have on women, and how many women I can have an impact on, and that’s where I hit that point. So it really is just following my heart and staying true to what my heart and soul would love to do, there is no logic, it’s not a logical decision, it’s not planned, its just the way things have turned out.

    The beautiful thing is being around authenticity I am helping these women be true to themselves and bring their own true values and their heart to their business, and I am doing that myself. Clearly if I’m talking about and teaching others authenticity to be practising it myself is always a good thing, it makes me feel very genuine and very true. And it doesn’t mean I’ll never work with men, or never do work with men.

    There is such a growth of the feminine in the world at the moment, there is a growth and a movement towards being feminine and using feminine energy and there’s a big movement towards being real in my view, and I just really truly believe that if I can help in that in any way it’s just where I want to be.

    Often when I’m in my head thinking about it, it makes no sense to me at all and I do sometimes have a conflict with that, but the bottom line is when I connect to my heart and what my heart would love, my heart would love to have an impact on a lot of women, and the way I’m being led to do that at the moment is supporting them in the business.

    So that is why and where I am at, that is why I created Authentic Edge and that is why I’m doing what I’m doing at the moment.
    That’s why I’m here and I’d love to help you get to the place of really knowing where you are as well.

    My Journey From FD to Authentic ME

    This blog is just following on from my earlier one about authenticity really. I am a big people watcher and I love observing how people behave and how they respond to things.

    my journey

    What’s it got to do with me? Well I guess its back to observing reactions to what I am doing with my life. I have followed what some would consider an unusual path. After a networking event last year, I had a brief conversation with Thomas Power, we were discussing think, feel, know. The idea being that the brain thinks, the heart feels, and the gut knows.

    And on reflection I have realised that my career evolution has touched on all three. Although maybe not quite in that way. Through an indirect route I became a management accountant, firstly employed and working in corporate (yuk!). Then I left to set up on my own – doing what I knew, I did it all, I wrote the book, had the website, did breakfast seminars, ran national conferences for my Institute, I was known in my communities.

    Until eventually it dawned on me that I wasn’t having fun, I liked some of it, but the rest I really didn’t, and I decided to sell. Once I made that decision it was like a weight I didn’t even know existed was lifted from my shoulders. My then partner advised me to wait a year, build the practice up then I could sell it for more. He didn’t get that it wasn’t about the money!

    So then I moved into property, which became the think element. I knew I wanted to create wealth, and property was the option that most appealed, and so I did what I thought would get me there. Initially that was my motivation, I was still running a business consultancy alongside, although once I got going I had a lot of fun.

    The time came though when I had done what I set out to do, my 7-8 year attention span was at its limit, family circumstances crystallised things, so I was ready for something else. (Although this remains a part of my financial structure)

    That’s where Intuition comes in. It took a while, I learnt a lot more about connecting to my own Intuition more easily, following my heart and what I love, and knowing better what that meant, as well as learning a lot about what patterns I play out and how my beliefs and thoughts can trip me up. (It’s also fantastic for people, watching because you get so much more understanding!)

    So using this and working with two different coaches the jigsaw eventually all started slotting into place, and brought me to where I am now. This business is what my heart wants to do. It’s the feel element. Its what is real for me , now. And I don’t need anyone else to approve or like it, its not about approval or need or what I learned way back when. Women who resonate with what I am doing will be in the feel space too, so they are drawn to me and my business.

    Its a different place to be in and to run a business from, and I like it because its about being authentic and real, which are important to me, probably more so now than ever in my past. I get to use my skills and experience still, and I have a fascinating area to research and write about too.

    And I am connecting with some wonderful women 🙂