Listening To Your Ideas

Listen to Your IdeasDo you get random ideas when you are in the shower, or driving, or just waking up in the morning? You know the ones, the things you never remember later.

What do you do with them? Do you pay attention or dismiss them, or just allow new thoughts to drift in and replace them?

I would urge you to pay attention. I know its not always easy to capture ideas in the moment, but if you give it more attention it will grow and you’ll have more chance of remembering it.

Why? Well I believe that we have ideas for a reason. They are a part of who you are. Little messages from your creative self. And if you want the real you to shine through then these may well be your clues.

Huge life changes can come about from the smallest of ideas. I am living proof of that. I moved country from what started as a random thought. It could have stayed that way, a throw away comment that amounted to nothing.

I guess in my case it may have triggered something that meant a lot to me, I’m not sure, but I drifted back to it and started focussing on it and thinking “why wait?” I realised that the random idea (moving to the sun) had been on the radar for some time, I had just always thought it was something I would do in the future when certain things fell into place.

Yet as soon as I gave it attention it was like a seed that had germinated and it grew fast. Because it was true.

So my point is that often things that are really important to us and that are representative of the real person inside, often may appear to be just a random idea.

We have thoughts for a reason, we have ideas for a reason. My invitation to you is to choose not to dismiss your ideas. At least take a look at them, and capture them in a book if they interest or energise you, even if you don’t think you can do anything about them at the moment. Though even then I suspect you will be surprised what you can do, if you decide to go for it.

But more than that allow them to flourish, see what comes up when you explore them, get curious. You never know where you may end up.

At the end of the day life is about choices. We always have a choice. And choosing to listen to those random ideas might just change your life.

What Does It Take For You to Engage In Your Life?

Authentic Edge - Let YOU shine throughFour weeks ago today I arrived in my new home. Most of you probably don’t know that I have moved to a different country. Something I know is perceived by many as a huge step to take, scary, difficult, crazy, impossible and many other similar words will be used to describe such an action.

Yet to me it wasn’t. Once I had made the decision it was just obvious. And to be honest everything flowed pretty easily. There was a lot to do in a short space of time. Being the impulsive person that I am, once I decide something I do go for it. It took me 8 weeks almost to the day from committing to the decision to arriving here.

And believe me, I’m an organised person so I did the research, I had my travel and hotels booked, my dogs paperwork arranged, a place to live, and assorted information about living in Malta, which is where I am now. I even had arrangements to meet up with people over here, before I had arrived.

Which is why I have been quiet on my blog and social media the last couple of months, because I was fully focused on the move and everything surrounding it.

So why was it easy and a no brainer for me? I believe because I made a decision and committed to the outcome. Things have a way of aligning in this world once you do that.

What did it take for me to do this? To have that level of engagement.
It took me realising that actually it was what I really wanted. Although I was very happy in myself there was an underlying “someday, maybe” going on in the background. It all started with a throwaway comment, which I then questioned later in the day and started thinking “why wait?”

So then I started making some enquiries and the seed was fully planted. I love the sun and I wanted to be somewhere sunnier, that was it. Except I realised it was more fundamental than I had previously allowed. So the more I looked into the whole idea the more it grew. It was just true for me. It’s a part of who I am, as those who know me well will know.

So all I was doing was making a commitment to honour and support what I love. To go with what is true for me deep down inside.

And the outcome is, not only have I moved to a place I love, I have let go of plenty of clutter which I left behind or gave away, and streamlined the way I do business. I have a fantastic view to gaze at whenever I like, I live in a beautiful penthouse apartment, my dogs are happy and I am meeting lots of new people.

Here is what one of them wrote to me in an email “ I do so admire your courage…. it takes guts to start a new life in another country, and it’s good to see someone comfortable with their life choices and willing to embrace the difference” Amazing, I’m inspiring people too, and it just feels normal to me – but that’s a whole new blog.

So I would like to finish by asking you if there is anything in your life that you are not fully engaging with. In your business or personally. What are you not committed to? Is this because it isn’t “you”? If so I invite you to question it.

If it is true for you, what is stopping you from committing? How might your life change if you did?

And what is “you”? Who are you when you are really being YOU? I’d love to hear about it, and if you’re not too clear I’d love to have a conversation and see if I can help you uncover it.

Julia can support you in transforming your engagement with your business and yourself. If this might be of interest why not book yourself in for a call to chat about it? Just drop an email to SS @ ae8.biz

Stay Inspired With Great People

I was at an event recently which got me thinking. It was a very timely reminder of the inspiration you can get from mixing with positive people.

Mix with upbeat positive peopleIf you are in business on your own, even if you have staff, it can be a very lonely place. And when you don’t always see other people regularly it can mean getting despondent sometimes. One of the best ways to keep yourself positive is to mix with positive people, and also to spend less time with those people who always get you down. You know the ones – the people who tell you things will never work, the ones who always feel sorry for themselves, never have a good word to say.

As we move into this year, find ways to gently ease out the negative people, and actively seek out the positive people.

Remember you can network on the internet as well as in person, as I’m sure you do. There are some great discussion groups around who are hugely supportive of each other. Seek out the ones that resonate for you.

And keep some time for live events, for networking or learning, nothing beats real life connection!

Choosing Happiness – An Experiment

I have read a couple of blogs recently referring to happiness. I find it fascinating to read different views. Whilst I might not have said so when I was younger (and less wise), I do think that happiness is a choice.

Inner glow from choosing happinessIt’s something we hear quite a bit these days, and yes I know some readers will rubbish this view, that you can improve your abundance/attraction etc by raising your vibration, which you do by being happy & grateful.

Have you ever tried it though? I mean don’t knock it if you haven’t. Seriously.

I did an experiment back in the summer, one evening I was meeting friends for a meal, so on the train I focussed on “raising my vibration” and being in my heart. And what happened?

Firstly I caught sight of myself in the window of the tube, grinning without realising, secondly I was conscious of people looking at me in the restaurant (in a good way), and thirdly one of my girlfriends asked me whether I had been away or had a facial. All I had done was activate my inner glow.

I do believe you can drop into this space very easily once you have done it and know what works for you. OK I know we can’t all stay there all the time, it takes conscious effort especially to start with.

Why not choose to try it out?

Inspiration from the Paralympics

Yes it was months ago, but isn’t it worth remembering?

Back in the summer I found myself watching the Paralympics one weekend. I’m no avid TV watcher and no avid sports fan, but I did turn it on this particular time when I sat down to eat, and ended up leaving the TV on in the background for the rest of the evening.

Inspiration from the ParalympicsAnd what an eye opener it was. These guys are nothing short of inspirational, they don’t stop and say I can’t I have no legs, they just say “give me my prosthetic legs” and off they go! They compete like any other athletes.

Not just the competitiors

I was also amazed to watch the show afterwards, a chat show hosted brilliantly by “disabled” presenters. I mean who needs to have your arms and legs just so to sit behind a desk and commentate? Any TV presenter is sitting behind a desk presenting for those kind of shows, it doesn’t matter how many legs they have*.

These guys have personality, make great comments and it was highly entertaining viewing.

Controversy

Something else which I found amazing was that they were commenting on a tweet made by a guy who had said that the word “disabled” is now outdated.

And watching these athletes they are as able as anybody and I find that amazingly true. Clearly there was a lot of controversy over a comment like that and it was interesting to see and hear the views. It wasn’t the disabled people who got offended, they saw it as it was meant , in acknowledgement of the athletes, a positive way to say don’t separate these people.

Seeing beyond

Alan Carr was a guest on the show too, and had apparently been attending the Games for the previous days, he made another interesting comment saying the first couple of days he looked at the disabilities then after that he just saw beyond that to the athletes.

Isn’t that how it should be? Isn’t it great to just recognise talent and determination and other inspiring human beings?

Inspirational

I actually found it all very moving, including writing this piece. At the end of the day these are people who are very determined, very successful, very committed, people who put the rest of us to shame the way they get up and go. They don’t say I can’t, they just get up and do whatever it is they have chosen to do.

How many of us can say that we really honestly act like that? The whole thing was truly inspirational, truly amazing and I would never have watched it if it wasn’t in London. Generally I don’t have the interest, I don’t watch TV I’m not a big sports fan. I’m truly glad that I didn’t let that stop me on this occasion.

What do you think? Were you inspired?

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(*Disclaimer: These are my own thoughts and no comments are intended to offend or upset anyone, please read in the spirit it was written, as an appreciation of these amazing, inspirational people)

Do you care what other people think?

This came to me because I was remembering some of the decisions I’ve made over the years and reflecting on the more important decisions, particularly when it comes to the crunch, do we make our own decision or do we make decisions based on whether we will please the people around us?

Stand out and be you don't get lost on the crowdAgain I know there is no right answer the answer to this question is an individual one and it will vary from person to person, and that’s great. I’d like to share my views on this. To me the big decisions I have made in my life are things like selling my business, leaving my job in the first place to go self-employed, and choosing to leave a relationship. Those kind of things.

And when I look back at what I did at the time ultimately the decision was mine and mine alone. And I think with any decision in our lives deep down inside any decision is our own, and there are people who will think you’re bonkers and who will say you shouldn’t make the decision you make, the question really is, do we allow these people to influence us or do we stay true to ourselves?

Leaving corporate life

For example way back in 1996 I left the corporate world and I chose to set up in business on my own, this was largely driven by the fact that I hated my job and I didn’t really see what else I wanted to do, and also a craving the independence I suppose.

I was a qualified accountant and at the age I was then I firmly believed that I would easily get another job if the self employment didn’t work out. So I had my fallback position, the worst case scenario was I set up on my own, it didn’t work so I could get another job.

They didn’t like it…

Simple for me …. for everybody else, people thought I was mad, people thought I was crazy, people thought I was brave – which made me smile, I thought it was a fairly normal sort of thing to do, perhaps because I mixed with people who were self-employed as well as people were employed, and so I didn’t really think of it as anything to worry about.

I didn’t see it as anything too scary, yes it was scary to have no clue where to start but it didn’t seem to me to be an illogical decision, and yet I was surrounded by people telling me how brave I was. Which I think is because their mindset with was around staying in a job until you draw your pension because “that’s what you do”, that’s what culture says, that’s how it works, that’s what’s expected of you etc

And to be honest had I listened to all those people I would no doubt have spent many years in other accounting jobs in corporate positions doing something I didn’t enjoy.

How it would be different..

How would that influence the rest of my life? my lifestyle? Perhaps I’ve lost out on some income but what about the freedom I have? would I have the same friends?

I don’t know but I suspect I would be very unhappy, and the bottom line is for me I didn’t really care what other people thought, I knew it was right for me, it had been building up for a long time and that was all that mattered.

And I think we need to be true to ourselves, I know I’ve said this before in other blogs but I do think it’s true and when it comes to the big decisions, and even the small decisions to be honest, but the biggies like selling a business, or keeping a job, or leaving a relationship, only YOU know and even if you don’t want to admit it and you want reassurance from other people that you’re doing the right thing, underneath you know.

I think we are only ever seeking reassurance, we’re never seeking somebody else to make the decision for us. Sometimes it feels like it will be easier if we could act on advice, and we are helped by what others say, but we always know what’s true, we may or may not acknowledge it, or want to acknowledge it!

You know inside

I believe that deep down inside you always know the right decision to you and you always know the right way to go, and that brings back the question “do you care what other people think?”

If you know its true does it matter what anyone else thinks or says? I would urge you to say no it doesn’t, to let go of the attachment to other peoples opinions and to listen to yourself, to what’s true to you, particularly with the big decisions.

And if you need support, that’s OK just seek out someone to help you who will listen to what’s true for you, rather than anyone who will give you advice based on what is true to them.

And if you are struggling with a decision or looking for some reassurance, why not take advantage of a free Authentic Business Strategy Session? 20-30 min focused time to get more clarity

Seasonal Obligations….. Are You True to Your Heart at Christmas?

As we approach the holiday season I think we are at a time when many feel under obligation for various reasons.

Authentic Edge at Christmas - thoughtsTo start with there is the expectation of spending the time with family. Many do this not because they want to but because they feel the obligations, it’s what’s expected, what they “should” do. So inevitably you don’t enjoy yourself because you constantly feel you are fitting in and you’re wishing you could be doing what you want to do.

So why don’t you? At the end of the day we all make choices in our lives which impact what happens. If you want to go skiing at Christmas or have a quiet day at home, or just spend it with your partner, why not do that? Stop and think about what you’d really love to do. You have a couple of days off work, it’s your time, how would you love to spend it?

(and yes I know there are people who have elderly or sick family and want to be with them, I appreciate that)

Obligation to Give

And then there are presents. Firstly feeling obliged to buy for certain people, or to spend a certain amount of money. We are all under this kind of pressure, though really when you stop and look at it we are putting this on ourselves with our own beliefs and thoughts about whether we will be judged.
So again stop and look at it, would you love to buy that person a gift? If so great, if not don’t, or buy a small token.

Obligation to Keep

And what about the gifts you are given? Here’s a biggie!
Do you feel obliged to keep them , even if you don’t like them? Do you feel you have to put them on display when the donor comes to visit? Well guess what, when someone gives you a gift it becomes yours, as such is your to do with as you choose, and if you choose to donate it to the charity shop that is entirely your choice. Do it without guilt. I was surprised earlier this year when my own mother even shared that she believes this, I was impressed though I hadn’t expected it of her.

YOU decide

So give it some thought, you are free to make your own choices, it’s your life, it’s your money, you decide how you spend your time and money.

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And if you know a woman in business, why not gift them a free Authentic Business Strategy Session? Or treat yourself! You deserve something for you after all 🙂

If you don’t feel it……

“If you don’t feel it, flee from it. Go where you are celebrated, not merely tolerated.” ― Paul F. Davis

Authentic Edge, Celebrating FriendsDo you like this quote? What do you think of it?

When I tweeted this recently it received the most response of any tweets in a long time, maybe ever. Why do you think that might be?

Clearly it resonates with a lot of people.

Personally I like it, and it resonates for me. To me it speaks about being true to who you are, staying authentic.

“If you don’t feel it, flee from it” so if what you are doing doesn’t feel right, it isn’t, don’t hang around. We can apply this to so many areas of our lives. It could be business, a new customer or employee, a new project, or it could be at home, with family or in a relationship. Maybe when you met a new person.

Its really about following your heart, If you don’t feel it, if there is no connection for you. To me you’d make this choice from your heart space and not from your ego.

If you choose to be in your heart and it doesn’t feel right , it most likely isn’t. Some call it gut reaction, some call it intuition, it doesn’t matter, it’s your body telling you what your conscious mind may not yet know. I recommend listening!

And what about the second part? “Go where you are celebrated, nor merely tolerated”

I so agree with this. Why on earth would we choose to hang around with people who don’t appreciate us? All this is saying is choose to be with those who choose to be with you. Be with like minded people who appreciate you.

Isn’t life so much easier and more fun when you do that?

Making the Choice

”I radiate and attract whatever I choose to accept. I now choose to accept the highest and best in life. I now choose and receive the best health, success and happiness. I now choose to accept lavish abundance for myself and all. This is a rich friendly Universe and I choose to accept its riches, hospitality and enjoy them now.”
Catherine Ponder


This is a great quote. We all have a choice about what we do, how we live, how we deal with situations. We get to choose everything about our lives.

And I know some of you will be saying “yes but…” or “but what about…” at this point. It’s worth considering that whatever happens, you can choose how you respond to it, and how you respond will determine where you go in life.

Are going to choose to accept the things you don’t like? Or are you going to go out and find something better?

Will you choose to be happy when you get up in the morning?