Put your inner pedant away and let your heart out to play

Back in September I put a tweet out about it being the end of the summer break and the beginning of the school term and asking how people felt about it.

Why do we criticise others so much?

Perhaps not unsurprisingly some people were picking holes and saying things like “my kids don’t go back to school today”, or “Tim doesn’t start until such and such”.

Actually I really don’t care what day your kids go back to school! The essence of the tweet was asking how people felt about the end of the summer break and getting back into the autumn and the long run in to winter.

It’s interesting how we have this almost natural need to criticise and pick holes in everything, and although I call it a “natural” need it is in fact based on a need of our ego. It is something that a lot of us have, most of us probably, and it comes from way back when our childhood, our culture and everything that created the need to have right and wrong in us, came about.

When we judge or criticize another person, it says nothing about that person; it merely says something about our own need to be critical.

Why do we need to judge? Why do we need to make people right or wrong? I believe our need to criticise happens only because we’re hanging out in our ego. So to me feeling the need to criticise something is a warning sign, a warning sign that I’m moving into my ego (ie my head, overthinking etc). If I am in my ego then I’ve moved away from my heart.

Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain but it takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving.
Dale Carnegie

So perhaps it’s worth considering next time you feel the need to criticise or judge somebody that actually that’s a warning to you that you’re not playing out from your heart, and that you’re coming from your head, from your ego space and maybe it’s time to reflect and revisit and just breathe and pull yourself back to a better space before moving on.

Because as we know criticism never serves anybody and it just puts us into a negative space as well as potentially causing damage, so if we just stop and breathe and hesitate before responding we can actually choose to put ourselves back into our heart space and be a lot more loving to the world and just generally make the world a better place to be in.

Would you agree?


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