Quotes For Women by Women

Successful women's quotesI’m sure like me you see all sorts of quotes posted these days, on social media or just as part of an article or something.

What I have realised though is that there are a lot of inspirational quotes from women who have been successful in their field. And many of these are also targeted at other women.

And as what I do is help women be successful I thought I might collate a few to share with you.

So here you are a selection of well known, and not so well known, quotes by women, and often for women as well.

I hope you enjoy them, and do let me know of any more!

Don’t just stand for the success of other women, insist on it.
Gail Blanke, President and CEO, Lifedesigns

Perseverance is failing nineteen times and succeeding the twentieth.
Julie Andrews

Aerodynamically the bumblebee shouldn’t be able to fly, but the bumblebee doesn’t know that so it goes on flying anyway.
Mary Kay Ash

The question isn’t who is going to let me; it’s who is going to stop me.
Ayn Rand

A woman with a voice is by definition a strong woman. But the search to find that voice can be remarkably difficult
Melinda Gates

You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough
Mae West

In all realms of life it takes courage to stretch your limits, express your power, and fulfill your potential.
Suze Orman

Define success on your own terms, achieve it by your own rules, and build a life you’re proud to live
Anne Sweeney (President,Walt Disney)

A lot of people are afraid to say what they want. That’s why they don’t get what they want.
Madonna

Striving for excellence motivates you; striving for perfection is demoralizing.
Harriet Braiker

Women need real moments of solitude and self-reflection to balance out how much of ourselves we give away.
Barbara De Angelis

I learned to always take on things I’d never done before. Growth and comfort do not coexist.
Virginia Rometty (CEO of IBM)

We cannot change what we are not aware of, and once we are aware, we cannot help but change. Sheryl Sandberg (COO of Facebook)

Big doesn’t necessarily mean better. Sunflowers aren’t better than violets.
Edna Ferber

Remember, all the answers you need are inside of you; you only have to become quiet enough to hear them.
Debbie Ford

Never give up, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.
Harriet Beecher Stowe

Do you really want to look back on your life and see how wonderful it could have been, had you not been afraid to live it?
Carolyn Myss

These are just a selection of the many out there. Worth reading and contemplating though. There is plenty to think on .

How could you take some of these words and change the way you think or look at something? What difference could that make to you?

Help! I Don’t Even Know What My Purpose Is….

I don't know what my purpose is!This is a place I understand all too well, as I was there! That was me. So what do I recommend for you if you are a woman who doesn’t yet know what her purpose and passion is?

To be honest I will rephrase that and say if you don’t yet know consciously. Because I believe we all know deep down, it’s just that sometimes it’s so deep it can take us a while to find it or recognise it!

And that is my first point, know that it doesn’t automatically happen overnight. Some people have a flash of inspiration and just know, for others, for many of us, it can take a lot longer and needs some focussed attention.

So I would suggest taking some time to get connected to your heart, learn how to listen and interpret what is true for you. It will be easier for some than others, though that is no reason to despair. There are lots of things you can do and exercises you can learn to support you in this.

So spend time connecting to your heart, find out what works for you, listen to what comes through, and you will at some point find out what it is you really want to do. Initially you may just have the essence of it not the detail, it will come.

To help you in the process you may find it helpful to invest in a coach, its often easier and clearer to have two of you focused on the outcome, I found this true for me. Sometimes we don’t trust or believe our own intuition and when it is reinforced by someone else we are more willing to accept the truth of it. You also usually get a deeper and wider understanding. Or if you have an intuitive friend you can work with them.

I find that journaling can be good too, it allows you to expand on what comes to you and to stay connected to your imagination and your intuition for longer, so you can get deeper insights.

And all the time do your best to trust the process, believe in your own guidance and receive the messages and signs that come to you, stay open to possibility. When something is really true you will just know, however that shows up for you, you will feel it. So whatever your head might say, whatever thoughts you have about what you feel, know that it’s your heart that is right.

Top Tips For Running A Successful, Purpose Driven Business

Top Tips from Julia McdaidToday is the day you can hear my interview on the Soulfully Successful Women Telesummit.

One of the things Kelly and I talked about in preparation for the Telesummit were my top tips to build a successful business from your passion and purpose. After thinking about this I came up with these, and I thought you might find them useful.

Firstly is follow your heart. If you are not familiar with the phrase, learn to understand what this means. To me it’s about doing it YOUR way, BEing you, being authentic and in integrity. Following your heart is about doing what is true for you, what you wnt deep down inside when yu stop listening to all those doubts and questions in your head! Its not what is expected or what you know. In fact I can’t emphasise enough, don’t just do what you know – unless it really is your passion and purpose.

The next thing I would say, which really follows on from the first is to connect with your intuition, and use it. It is your intuition which will guide you and tell you what is true for you, this is what allows you to follow your heart.

Another thing that many of us as women need to learn, because we are not very good at it, is to learn to receive. We women are naturally givers and often find this hard to do. Again this may need more explanation and understanding, I know it would have meant little to me when I started out. Here I’m referring to allowing your feminine side out, to allowing things to come to you, to be graceful and gracious and open in the way you interact. When you start thinking about attracting the right clients and people to you it pays to know how to receive (not dismiss things without thinking!).

I think it is great to remember to keep things balanced too, although this is enough to be a blog in itself and I have written about it before. Part of this is knowing you are number one, put you first. Then also think about masculine & feminine energies in the business, and in you; about having time for the non work aspects of your life, the people and things that are important to you.

And a couple of more practical tips for you:

Get the right support network around you. This will allow you to play to your strengths. so look at advisors, mentors, peers, the people you interact with and look to for help. Plus your business structure, you can set this up so that it works for you and your lifestyle, delegating where appropriate and so on – learn to delegate well. This one is still on my “must do better” list I will be honest, I find it hard sometimes.

And when it comes to using people outside of the business to help you, especially if you are paying them, don’t use advisors who only have corporate experience, because they won’t get you and they won’t understand the peculiarities of small business, whatever they might say. This is one I learned the hard way.

And finally, this kind of ties into where I started, do let go of the “shoulds” and “ought to’s“. If you are running a purpose driven business it’s about your passion, your purpose, you and your clients, it’s not about what somebody else who doesn’t know those things says you should do. Yes there are some things you have to comply with legally, every business does, outside that its your business, your way, always.

I hope you find some of these tips useful and if you have any good ones, please do share them 🙂

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The Benefits of Journaling

Benefits of Journaling - Julia McDaidI wanted to share some thoughts with you about journaling, as its something that has cropped up in conversation a lot recently.

I am a big fan of journaling, (even when I don’t do it all the time!) and I think it can be really helpful.

There is more to it than just keeping a record of what is going on in your life. I think traditionally a journal was used as a way of recording, to remember what happened, sometimes with thoughts or other items added in.

What I am talking about here is how to use a journal to help you get clarity, whether that is to deal with things that aren’t going quite as you had hoped or to help in knowing what to do next.

So there are two main ways to use a journal.

The first is purely to empty out the thoughts from your head. If you have read The Artists Way by Julia Cameron, you will know she recommends writing Morning Pages. This is writing three pages of thoughts as soon as you get up in the morning. And you just write anything, whatever is in your head.

This has two benefits, firstly it takes all those niggling thoughts and doubts from your head and puts them on paper, so they stop whizzing round your brain. And secondly it will start to get you used to writing as part of the creative process. You will be surprised how ideas start to pop up once you have been doing it for a while, or even once you have written a couple of pages.

The second way to use journaling, which is truly tapping into the creative, is to use it for getting insights. To do this you write about what you want to create, or you start with a question and write to answer it. Questions may be things like “Why am I here?” , if you are looking to identify your purpose, or they may be more specific, perhaps something like “How do I want this teleseminar to impact my listeners?”.

Again the key is to just write, without thinking about it, write as much as you can, however mad or silly it seems . Don’t judge what comes , write it all down.

An somewhere in there you will start to get some clarity. The light bulb moments will start to happen, or you will get a sudden realisation about what you are doing or why.

I have started compiling a list of thought provoking questions to journal on, so I will let you know when its ready to release. And if you have any that are powerful, or worked for you, please do share them.

I’d love to hear how you get on with journaling if you try it, and if you use it already what you find most beneficial. I know I am choosing to do more of it.

Summer Reflection

Summer reflection, by Julia Mcdaid - read the blogI am very lucky living where I do. Every morning I start the day with a walk to the sea or a walk in the countryside (with sea views). It is a great opportunity to connect to nature and to be quiet and reflective.

And I think as we are now properly into the summer season we have the opportunity to take advantage of some quiet time for our business.

Traditionally many employers would close down completely for two weeks in the summer and everyone went away. Now that doesn’t happen very much but during the school holiday period many find that business is slow because it’s the busiest holiday time of the year.

So whilst you may find your clients are away and your networking has gone quiet, this can be a perfect time to assess where you are up to and plan the next phase.

Why not embrace the quiet spell and use it to your advantage?

For example I am working with some clients to use the next few weeks to really get clear on their true business vision, they have time now to be focussed and to really get into the space of creating from the heart. And then they are setting things up in their business to move towards this vision and also to have the business work the way they want it to.

It s a good way to do things and you can do it too. Nature can be a great helper in this. If you get out into nature and connect to everything round you I guarantee it will feel a lot more peaceful and easier to connect to what your heart is really calling for you to do.

Why not take some time out to walk and reflect and allow the ideas and your true heart’s vision to flow. Plus it will help all the stresses to fall away. You can connect back to your childlike curiosity and play with thoughts and ideas.
If you choose to the summer break can be a time to prepare for the autumn, to effectively prepare the soil and sow the seeds for the next phase of your business.

Just think how much more relaxed you will feel in the autumn if you know exactly where you are going and what you are doing to get yourself there. If you are just following the plan you have created.

Maybe you have some decisions you need to make, if so you will make better and clearer decisions, which are more true for you, if you make them from your heart space. Trust me , I have done both!
Getting out in nature is just one way you can relax and get more connected to what your heart is calling you to do next.

So why not try it whilst the weather is being accommodating? 😉

If you would like to have some help in unveiling your true business vision, and creating the right support structure for you, just send an email to ss @ ae8.biz to arrange a complimentary chat.

Do you care what other people think?

This came to me because I was remembering some of the decisions I’ve made over the years and reflecting on the more important decisions, particularly when it comes to the crunch, do we make our own decision or do we make decisions based on whether we will please the people around us?

Stand out and be you don't get lost on the crowdAgain I know there is no right answer the answer to this question is an individual one and it will vary from person to person, and that’s great. I’d like to share my views on this. To me the big decisions I have made in my life are things like selling my business, leaving my job in the first place to go self-employed, and choosing to leave a relationship. Those kind of things.

And when I look back at what I did at the time ultimately the decision was mine and mine alone. And I think with any decision in our lives deep down inside any decision is our own, and there are people who will think you’re bonkers and who will say you shouldn’t make the decision you make, the question really is, do we allow these people to influence us or do we stay true to ourselves?

Leaving corporate life

For example way back in 1996 I left the corporate world and I chose to set up in business on my own, this was largely driven by the fact that I hated my job and I didn’t really see what else I wanted to do, and also a craving the independence I suppose.

I was a qualified accountant and at the age I was then I firmly believed that I would easily get another job if the self employment didn’t work out. So I had my fallback position, the worst case scenario was I set up on my own, it didn’t work so I could get another job.

They didn’t like it…

Simple for me …. for everybody else, people thought I was mad, people thought I was crazy, people thought I was brave – which made me smile, I thought it was a fairly normal sort of thing to do, perhaps because I mixed with people who were self-employed as well as people were employed, and so I didn’t really think of it as anything to worry about.

I didn’t see it as anything too scary, yes it was scary to have no clue where to start but it didn’t seem to me to be an illogical decision, and yet I was surrounded by people telling me how brave I was. Which I think is because their mindset with was around staying in a job until you draw your pension because “that’s what you do”, that’s what culture says, that’s how it works, that’s what’s expected of you etc

And to be honest had I listened to all those people I would no doubt have spent many years in other accounting jobs in corporate positions doing something I didn’t enjoy.

How it would be different..

How would that influence the rest of my life? my lifestyle? Perhaps I’ve lost out on some income but what about the freedom I have? would I have the same friends?

I don’t know but I suspect I would be very unhappy, and the bottom line is for me I didn’t really care what other people thought, I knew it was right for me, it had been building up for a long time and that was all that mattered.

And I think we need to be true to ourselves, I know I’ve said this before in other blogs but I do think it’s true and when it comes to the big decisions, and even the small decisions to be honest, but the biggies like selling a business, or keeping a job, or leaving a relationship, only YOU know and even if you don’t want to admit it and you want reassurance from other people that you’re doing the right thing, underneath you know.

I think we are only ever seeking reassurance, we’re never seeking somebody else to make the decision for us. Sometimes it feels like it will be easier if we could act on advice, and we are helped by what others say, but we always know what’s true, we may or may not acknowledge it, or want to acknowledge it!

You know inside

I believe that deep down inside you always know the right decision to you and you always know the right way to go, and that brings back the question “do you care what other people think?”

If you know its true does it matter what anyone else thinks or says? I would urge you to say no it doesn’t, to let go of the attachment to other peoples opinions and to listen to yourself, to what’s true to you, particularly with the big decisions.

And if you need support, that’s OK just seek out someone to help you who will listen to what’s true for you, rather than anyone who will give you advice based on what is true to them.

And if you are struggling with a decision or looking for some reassurance, why not take advantage of a free Authentic Business Strategy Session? 20-30 min focused time to get more clarity

If you don’t feel it……

“If you don’t feel it, flee from it. Go where you are celebrated, not merely tolerated.” ― Paul F. Davis

Authentic Edge, Celebrating FriendsDo you like this quote? What do you think of it?

When I tweeted this recently it received the most response of any tweets in a long time, maybe ever. Why do you think that might be?

Clearly it resonates with a lot of people.

Personally I like it, and it resonates for me. To me it speaks about being true to who you are, staying authentic.

“If you don’t feel it, flee from it” so if what you are doing doesn’t feel right, it isn’t, don’t hang around. We can apply this to so many areas of our lives. It could be business, a new customer or employee, a new project, or it could be at home, with family or in a relationship. Maybe when you met a new person.

Its really about following your heart, If you don’t feel it, if there is no connection for you. To me you’d make this choice from your heart space and not from your ego.

If you choose to be in your heart and it doesn’t feel right , it most likely isn’t. Some call it gut reaction, some call it intuition, it doesn’t matter, it’s your body telling you what your conscious mind may not yet know. I recommend listening!

And what about the second part? “Go where you are celebrated, nor merely tolerated”

I so agree with this. Why on earth would we choose to hang around with people who don’t appreciate us? All this is saying is choose to be with those who choose to be with you. Be with like minded people who appreciate you.

Isn’t life so much easier and more fun when you do that?

Why do I work with women and how is that different?

I was prompted to write this blog by a conversation I had at a networking event the other night. because I focus on working with women people often ask me why, and the truth of the matter is it’s not something I’ve ever done before in my life and I followed my heart.

What do I want to do?

So in many ways there isn’t any logical reason why I do what I do and the work I do with my clients is something I can obviously do with men and with women, but what I have done is spend a lot of time checking in with what my intuition says and what my heart would love to do.

I can support people growing a business (male or female) but when I check in and when I looked at what I would really truly love, what makes my eyes fill with tears is having an impact on women.

I remember a talk I went to a couple of months ago by Paul Dunn, and he was suggesting the audience do an exercise where you ask somebody why they do what they do, and then you keep on asking why. As you do this you go deeper and deeper and eventually you get to a point where you more or less can’t speak, you cannot say what’s in your mind because it’s so true for you that you’re filling up with tears.

And for me what gets me in that space of deep love, is when I say I want to see the impact I can have on women, and how many women I can have an impact on, and that’s where I hit that point. So it really is just following my heart and staying true to what my heart and soul would love to do, there is no logic, it’s not a logical decision, it’s not planned, its just the way things have turned out.

The beautiful thing is being around authenticity I am helping these women be true to themselves and bring their own true values and their heart to their business, and I am doing that myself. Clearly if I’m talking about and teaching others authenticity to be practising it myself is always a good thing, it makes me feel very genuine and very true. And it doesn’t mean I’ll never work with men, or never do work with men.

There is such a growth of the feminine in the world at the moment, there is a growth and a movement towards being feminine and using feminine energy and there’s a big movement towards being real in my view, and I just really truly believe that if I can help in that in any way it’s just where I want to be.

Often when I’m in my head thinking about it, it makes no sense to me at all and I do sometimes have a conflict with that, but the bottom line is when I connect to my heart and what my heart would love, my heart would love to have an impact on a lot of women, and the way I’m being led to do that at the moment is supporting them in the business.

So that is why and where I am at, that is why I created Authentic Edge and that is why I’m doing what I’m doing at the moment.
That’s why I’m here and I’d love to help you get to the place of really knowing where you are as well.

Dreaming

Dreaming your future
Do you dream about what you want in your life? About the house you’d like to have or the car you crave? Do you daydream about living in the sun or by the beach or not having to work any more?

Well if that’s you the good news is that it’s a good thing to be doing. In fact it’s a great thing to be doing.
The first step to creating what you really want in life is to imagine it, see it in your head, visualise how you want things to be.

So go on, get dreaming. Do it in some serious detail, put yourself in the picture and imagine how you feel, what are your senses telling you? What can you see, hear, smell and touch? The more real you can make it the better.
What you are doing is sending messages to your brain that this is how your life is going to be, so your subconscious can get to work in moving in that direction.

“If you can DREAM it, you can DO it.” – Walt Disney

“Don’t be afraid of the space between your dreams and reality. If you can dream it, you can make it so.” – Belva Davis